How to Make Friends as a Parent

Every parent I meet talks about how hard it is to make friends as an adult. Once you add being a parent on top of the adulting, making those connections is nearly impossible, but it’s so important for your overall well-being. We are not meant to do the work of raising children alone. Having started my parenting journey right before lockdown of 2020, mommy and me groups, story time, and park playdates were out of the question. Here’s how one might make friends as a parent.

Engage in Activities for Kids

Participate in extracurricular activities. There are a variety of factors that contribute to if and when your child will be ready to participate in structured activities, like teams and classes. Regardless, find an activity that works for your family, and start up conversations with the parents during practice or games to foster friendships.

Attend kid related events around town. Recently we were at story time, and we made a new playdate friend. Our two kids hit it off; I put myself out there for the sake of my extroverted child, and I exchanged numbers with the mom. If you can’t find events that speak to you, the playground, children’s museums, and library are always a safe bet.

Leverage Social Media and Online Communities

Organize Virtual Meetups. This was my jam when were were locked down AND I worked from home. Virtual meetups are helpful when organizing childcare is challenging and parents still want to connect. Virtual meetups allow flexibility in terms of where parents live. I have thoroughly enjoyed meeting parents and professionals from across the globe due to technology.

Join Parenting Groups. These groups can be local or strictly virtual. Be intentional about the groups you pick so that they don’t become more of a messy burden than a helpful community.

Create and Attend Community Events

Host Playdates or Gatherings. Organizing a playdate or a small gathering at your home or a local park can help you meet other parents in a relaxed setting.

Participate in Community Activities. Search for kid events where parents with similar interests, beliefs, and values might attend. We do believe it is important to learn more about new people, places, and perspectives, and it’s also important to have someTHING in common with your friends. Attend local events such as farmers’ markets, festivals, or library story ours where other parents and families are likely to be present.

Conclusion

Undoubtedly being in community with trusted families and friends can help cope with stress, provide validation when experiencing the challenges of parenthood, and extend the support needed to make it day-to-day.